A man was planning to make his side chick his second wife. Knowing that his wife would resist to the last drop of her blood, he decided to bring her in as their new domestics staff. When his wife discovered and couldn't bear it; she took her own life.
Another couple had been married for 6years and had 2children together. It seemed they enjoyed bliss all through until something tragic happened. One day, the husband discovered he was not the biological father of the 2 children. The wife had the children for 2different men right under his roof. When he couldn't handle it anymore, he killed the wife and the children and himself.
Ganiyu was an upcoming fish farmer. With the encouragement he got from the profit of his previous year's harvest sales, he decided to do it bigger the next year so he took bank loan to expand his fish farming business. Having invested so much in the business with bountiful harvest in sight in less than a month to come, there came a heavy downpour that flooded his fish farms resulting to total loss of all his investments. The occurence was unbearable for Ganiyu and he decided to end it all by taking poison.
Susan was unable to secure university admissions for 5 consecutive years. She braced herself up to give it another shot but unfortunately, she was denied admission the 6th time. As a result, she became hostile to everyone including herself and lived a reckless life without getting back on track until she lost her life to drug overdose.
Folake, (just as her name implies); used all of her heart, resources and life to love and care for her fiance. Even when he lost his job and couldn't secure another job for a year, she went to borrow money from friends, family and foes in addition to her personal savings to enable him relocate to another country in search of greener pastures. Both agreed she will join him after one or two years. On getting abroad, the guy gradually reduced his communication with her until he became unreachable for her. Folake felt used, defrauded, jilted and concluded in her heart that all men are scum. That was how she went on a revenge/vengeance spree on innocent men that came her way for a relationship over what only one man did to her and she lost countless angels in men.
In a bid to become king, Uche lost it by offering bribes, employing violence and killing his major opponent. Though he went uninvestigated and unarrested for his crime because no traces was left and became king but, he lived as a lost soul within himself.
This issues of losing one's sanity, doing the needless to achieve good things, going haywire and/or committing suicide over relationships or any problem isn't pure 'rara'.
Every thought and temptation to consider losing your mind, hurting or killing yourself (or someone else) in response to negative realities is a demonic manipulation of the mind to see oneself as worthless and unneeded anymore alive.
Nobody's unfaithfulness and unfairness is worth losing your peace and life over. Loss of anything/anyone isn't strong enough for you to be robbed of soundmind. Without soundmind, there is no soundman.
To lose oneself is not only by death. Once you let negative realities get into you and make common sense evaporated from your brain; you begin to do shit. Though you are alive yet, you have lost yourself within yourself. Just like Folake in the narration above who didn't kill herself or anyone but developed wrong mindset towards all men and began to exhibit wrong attitudes.
Avoid anything that can rob you of your confidence, self-esteem and faith that you will finally succeed unlike Susan who gave up and became a shadow of herself due to her inability to secure university admission after series of attempt.
Be visionary and never let go of your valid visions. To lose sight of your essence/purpose, uniqueness and possible best is a collosal loss.
There is more to life than relationships and marriage.
There is more to life than properties and possessions.
There is more to life than money and opportunities.
There is more to life than positions and power.
There is more to life than status and class.
There is more to life than popularity and fame.
The loss of admissions, jobs, money, contracts, opportunities, properties, possessions, businesses, promotions, positions, power, connections, relationships, people and time shouldn't lure you into losing yourself.
No matter what is lost, if you are not lost, everything is not lost. You lose everything by losing yourself. To lose oneself over any loss (or lack or disappointment) is an unaffordable and unrecoverable loss.
Always be the one doing things not the one things are doing. Let nothing shock you and bounce you off guard. Irrespective of the struggles on your path and what people did or didn't do to/with/for you; you can always win and still live a super amazing life through it all if you don't lose grip of your right mind.
Be wise! Never punish or kill yourself for the wrong you suffered in the hand of another person or the things you failed to achieve. Whoever offended you did bad; hurting yourself (or another person) afterwards makes you your greatest offender. Heal from your loss, don't kill nor continue to bleed for your loss.
(Disclaimers: The stories in this piece are imaginery scenereos explaining some real life events).
©16/11/2022
_Stephen Olamilekan Jimoh
Advance Everyday
...living life at best
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