In the wake of a case featured on "The Jeremy Kyle Show" involving 2 Nigerians by the name Oscar and Valentine. For 32 years, Oscar had thought Valentine is his biological son until when Valentine's mother dropped the bombshell during a phone conversation with Valentine that Oscar is not his father as related by Valentine. He (Valentine) also added that his mother was crying profusely while making the confession.
In a bid to ascertain the truth, both of them (Oscar and Valentine who had enjoyed a father and son relationship ever since Valentine was born and taken to USA by Oscar) decided to appear on the show for a DNA test which proved that they are not biologically father and son.
While watching the video, I could not imagine the despair of Oscar at knowing that Valentine is not his son though the 2 assured the audience that the DNA result would not affect their father and son relationship but, one cannot deny the fact that such case could be so damaging.
As a result, below are some of many questions that came to my mind after watching the video.
1. Why would the woman in question conceived for another man under another man's roof?
2. Why would she concealed the matter for that long?
3. What prompted her confession?
4. Is she aware of the possible negative impact of her confession on Oscar? Or she is not aware that Oscar could be rendered heartbroken for life?
5. How was she able to suppress her conscience for that long? 'Chai, she get liver o'!
6. What is in it for her in the first place?
7. Why can't she keep the secret forever considering it's possible damaging impact on Oscar?
8. Or she intended to punish Oscar by saying the truth?
9. Or may be she was tired of her insincerity and wanted to set herself free by saying the truth?
10. Or she too didn't know that it wasn't Oscar that impregnated her? If yes, when did she discovered?
However, I suppose truth is meant to set both the speaker and the recipient free. It is not to set the speaker free and put the recipient in bondage.
Thank God Oscar, though heartbroken but it seemed he was able to handle it at that moment of discovery with an impression that he would soon get over it as shown by his response and expressions after the whole thing.
On the other hand, there was another case of a man who couldn't bear it at all when he discovered he was not the father of a 4 year old boy his wife had in his house as a result, he slaughtered both his wife and the boy and eloped.
This is just few of numerous similar cases involving a woman giving her pregnancy to another unsuspecting man as the rightful owner of the pregnancy for whatever reason best known to her.
In all of this issues and sharp practices, the major questions are:
a. why do women commit such crime by giving another man's child(ren) to someone else who is not responsible for the pregnancy?
b. how can we bring an end to such bad deeds?
c. how can the victim(s) in all of these cases be assisted to maintain their sanity and not result to violence/crimes against their offenders?
d. how can a man prevent such from happening to him?
Your relevant contributions to this article are welcome!
©17/07/2022.
_Stephen Olamilekan Jimoh
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