PRIORITIZE LOVELINESS ABOVE SEXINESS

Some female folks think what make them a real woman is being sexy (and that's all). So, they prioritize being sexually appealing/attractive to guys/men above all other things.

Some took it to extreme by reducing themselves to mere sex object having nothing of real value to offer men except sexual pleasures. They project themselves in such a way that the only thing that comes to mind at sighting them is sex, sex and sex as shown by their usual provocative/seductive dressing, appearance, carriage and conduct in public.

Since constructive thinking and corresponding actions is not part of them; advancement of thier communities/nation and humanity is not their concern. What am I saying 'sefu'? How possible is it for someone that takes pleasures in self devaluation to always add value to others?

All their investments is on cosmetics, wardrobes, nudity and unnecessary body reconstruction to make them more sexy in their own eyes as a packaged sex object.

Anybody may argue it to any lenght by calling it civilization and freedom of dressing but of what benefit is nudity in the real sense? What message is whoever lavishly exposes parts of her body (that should be modestly covered in public) passing across to others?

Public nudity cannot be separated from immorality, frivolity, promiscuity and prostitution. If you say there are women who dresses seductively but are still very decent, you need to check out the meaning of decency.

Modest dressing don't outrightly connote modest living (but modest living includes/covers modest dressing). There are people that are modestly dressed whose mouth, conducts and lifestyles are immodest but for whoever has modest mouth, conducts and lifestyles; it will also reflect in his/her dressing.

If you don't engage in immoral practices and you always advertise to opposite sex to lust after you following your suggestive appearances in public; what is that? By paying keen attention to your heart, you will realise that you are already projecting yourself wayward.

However, there is another set of women whose price is more than rubies. They are the wise women, the precious jewels and highly distinguished among women who placed premium on virtuous living and nothing else. For this honorable women; their own investment is on capacity building to be solution providers thereby, enhancing their womanhood with unwavering commitment to becoming more and more lovely not merely sexy.

What makes a woman a super woman is not her height or the size of her breast or the size of her buttocks or her hips or her frame/structure/stature/shape or the colour of her skin or the contents of her wardrobes or her jewelries or her cosmetics or the numbers of parties she had attended or her age or her nudity in public or her virginity or the number of men she had mated with or the number of abortion she had committed or the number of her children or her marital status or when she got married or her background or her race/tribe/ethnicity/nationality or her past.
The worth of a real woman is in her values and virtues as she is devoted to all that is right, true, pure, good, noble, lovely, admirable, beneficial, praiseworthy and excellent.

Nudity is not nobility.
Jewels are not made by jewelry. As a heart of gold is not birthed by wearing gold.
Loveliness is profitable than sexiness. Thus, lovely women are highly preferred and revered than sexy women.
Real celebrity (whose conducts and lifestyles are worthy of emulation) are not made by frivolity, nudity and promiscuity.
If sex is the only thing a man/woman is good at, he/she needs to go back to the drawing board and build relevant capacity to make him/her a super man/woman.

Super women are intelligent, independent, industrious, productive, prudent, peaceful, patriotic, just and decent/modest. They don't get things done (or succeed or become influential and prosperous) through ''bottom power''. They are not 'adara masuwon tabi awelewa masefe' (referring to beautiful women with pissful conducts).

Anyone with physical beauty without inner beauty is a beautifully packaged calamity thus, whoever embraces him/her has embraced life wire. To be outwardly beautiful and inwardly ugly is a mess. It takes inner beauty to enhance, amplify, maintain, sustain and nourish outer beauty. "When a girl has beauty without Brains, the Private parts suffer the most." (I got this quote attributed to Pete Edochie on internet)

No one else best described a super woman like the Biblical Poet and Royal Majesty - The wisest, richest and most successful King in his time; King Solomon as he wrote in Proverbs 31:10-31(amp)

"10A capable, intelligent, and [b]virtuous woman--who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.(D)

11The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.

12She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.

13She seeks out wool and flax and works with willing hands [to develop it].

14She is like the merchant ships loaded with foodstuffs; she brings her household's food from a far [country].

15She rises while it is yet night and gets [spiritual] food for her household and assigns her maids their tasks.(E)

16She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard. [S. of Sol. 8:12.]

17She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong and firm.

18She tastes and sees that her gain from work [with and for God] is good; her lamp goes not out, but it burns on continually through the night [of trouble, privation, or sorrow, warning away fear, doubt, and distrust].

19She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20She opens her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her filled hands to the needy [whether in body, mind, or spirit].

21She fears not the snow for her family, for all her household are doubly clothed in scarlet.(F)

22She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is of linen, pure and fine, and of purple [such as that of which the clothing of the priests and the hallowed cloths of the temple were made].(G)

23Her husband is known in the [city's] gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.(H)

24She makes fine linen garments and leads others to buy them; she delivers to the merchants girdles [or sashes that free one up for service].

25Strength and dignity are her clothing and her position is strong and secure; she rejoices over the future [the latter day or time to come, knowing that she and her family are in readiness for it]!

26She opens her mouth in skillful and godly Wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness [giving counsel and instruction].

27She looks well to how things go in her household, and the bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) she will not eat.(I)

28Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, fortunate, and to be envied); and her husband boasts of and praises her, [saying],

29[c]Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all.

30Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!

31Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates [of the city]!(J)"

_Stephen Olamilekan Jimoh
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